The Proof is in the Pudding

I’ve gone to enough Yoga trainings from different traditions to know each time I will learn something new that bumps up against my current way of thinking or contradicts what I’ve learned previously. This is not unique to Yoga, as I see the same thing when I look at, for instance, nutritional information or medical advice. Is wine good or not? Are eggs healthy or not? Is this medication more effective than dangerous?

When bumping up against information that challenges one’s world view, I normally see a few different responses.

First, there’s resistance. This is healthy, in my opinion, if done for the right reasons. Resistance helps the individual buy time to consider their previously held views and how they look in the light of this new information. Resistance out of an inability to change is not healthy, and may result in people holding onto old beliefs that are at best irrelevant, or at worst, harmful.

After further consideration, sometimes we find that the new information is true but not universally in all situations and for all people. For instance, the debate about breathing from your belly up vs. from your chest down. Supporters of breathing from the belly up (inhaling from the belly, then mid torso, to chest and on the exhale just the reverse) say belly breathing is very relaxing and grounding and most people in today’s society are stressed/anxious and could benefit from bottom-up belly breathing.

Supporters of the top-down breath (breathing into the chest, then mid-ribs, then belly and on the exhale contracting the belly, then drawing the mid ribs in, then softening at the chest) say this type of breath better supports one’s structure. Expanding first into the chest on each inhale reminds the student on each in-breath to broaden their front body and by only moving into the belly at the bottom of the inhale, the abdomen stays contracted and supports the lower back for a longer period of time.

Both are true, depending on your focus and needs.

This is what can be challenging in a group class and is one of the arguments for individualized one-on-one Yoga Therapy – to tailor a practice of movement, breathwork, meditation and relaxation for each individual’s needs.

There is also new information that appears to conflict, and yet both appear to be true. The paradox. These are hard to wrap your mind around, in my opinion.

Then there is new information that comes to light because people and lifestyles change and the old ways of doing things are no longer relevant. For instance, the recommendation that people sit cross-legged for meditation. This information was fine for people who grew up in India and never stopped sitting cross-legged all their lives. But for the rest of us who grew up in chairs, sitting cross-legged puts too much strain in the lower-back, hips, knees and is thus not the best meditation position for many folks in the West. For that matter, seated poses are not particularly effective for many beginners because their hips and hamstrings are tight and they are not able to get the intended benefits of the poses because their lower-backs are rounded due to tightness.

Along that same line of thinking, over-extending the neck in cobra pose is not as effective for today’s population because many people already carry too much tension in the back of their necks from adopting the forward head position while on the computer or looking at their iPhones. These were not issues a hundred or thousands of years ago, but they are now which means that for many of us lengthening the back of the neck to it’s neutral position (which does include a slight extension) is the most effective position for the neck in cobra. This does not mean that some people get benefits from over-extending the neck in cobra and stretching the front of the neck, but for a group class erring on the side of caution for the greatest good is my philosophy.

And of course there is new information that is just wrong.

Faced with contradictory information, some like to spout ‘moderation in all things.’ Ideally, this sounds good. A nice compromise. Unfortunately, this could mean that some could adopt a dangerous practice in moderation which leads to negative health consequences. Contrary to popular belief, moderation is not always the best option.

My favorite response upon learning new information, and after careful consideration, is ‘the proof is in the pudding’ test. If the new knowledge seems credible, reasonable, the next step is to test it in my own body and see how I feel during and after wards. A teacher that asks you to test the knowledge in your own body and see how it feels and trust what your body/mind tells you is leading you towards critical thinking and trusting yourself. You can have no greater guide than your life, as real wisdom is born of your own experiences. In my opinion, the teacher is there to guide you towards different techniques and expand your way of thinking, but then also asks you to find the courage to see if your internal compass reinforces it.

As The Dude says, new information has come to light, now the rest is up to you.

Why I Namaste

After class one evening, a student came up to me and confessed she loved ending class with Namaste, but felt self-conscious when others did not chime in.

I always end class with Namaste. Some respond back with it and others don’t. Awhile ago, I opted to end class with a chime instead and a few of my more experienced students came up and asked why I had made the change. One told me she didn’t feel like the class was complete without Namaste. I added it back in.

Truth is, I love ending class with Namaste. The Sanskrit word is roughly defined as “The Divine Spirit in me recognizes the Divine Spirit in you.” It’s an appreciation of the Divine Spark in all of us – a recognition of our Oneness. There are other translations, but for me this is the one that resonates.

I find it a perfect balance to the end our practice in which we’ve strengthened and stretched our bodies, coming face-to-face with our weaknesses, judgments and vulnerabilities.

For me, this one word is a realization that although our bodies are important and need to be cared for, we are so much more than our bodies. These vehicles, which carry us and support us, need our compassionate attention. Our bodies are our friends, and most all of us have spent a goodly amount of time treating them like machines – forcing them to go beyond their limits, ignoring signals, pushing them into submission so that we can meet particular goals. It is therefore a warm-hearted act to befriend our bodies and take good care of them. We do that for ourselves but also for others with whom we share our world as a body in good working condition can contribute to our own well-being as well as to others.

It is important to acknowledge that our bodies age. They get sick, injured, and disappoint us. To identify our happiness solely with the health of our bodies is to limit our capacity to enjoy life.

We are all so much more than our physical bodies.

After class one day, one of my students asked about the meaning of Namaste and I proceeded to tell her what I just mentioned and she responded – “but my back hurts!”

I get that. It is good to take care of the body because when it is not well, it can impact your well-being. But it does not always have to. Consider those who live a full life with an impairment – be they blind, or without limbs.

And so it is with the broader scope of Yoga and it’s more traditional leanings that I end with Namaste. Yes, I am invested in offering a class that allows you to feel more comfortable in your body. But Yoga also asks us to remember that Divine Spark in all of us, undefined by the limits of our changing bodies, and made-up of the same essence in you, and me, and all living things. And in that place, we are all the same.

Or not.

The choice is yours.


The Game Changer

There are a cacophony of reasons why people find Yoga. Many initially come to Yoga for the relaxed buzz they feel after class. The quick fix to reboot from a draining day, stressed body, worn-out mind. But over time, the reasons they often continue their regular practice is due to the positive change in how they inter-relate with themselves and their world. These long-term changes to their ‘default settings’ are significant, for this reason I’ll call them the Game Changers. There are truly too many to list in this post, but I’ll unpack a few of the more common ones.

Students regularly tell me that their posture has improved since beginning Yoga. That’s partly due to the poses that we do to create more balance in our bodies by opening the front of the torso, strengthening the back, and realigning the neck. But also because people who do Yoga regularly are more mindful of what’s going on in their bodies, and will more quickly notice and correct bad body mechanics before it starts causing pain. And bad body mechanics is at the root of much of our pain!

I love hearing students tell me that they regularly use breathing techniques to release tension – whether it’s a few mindful breaths while in rush-hour traffic or during a difficult verbal interaction. Releasing stress before it creates a health crisis is incredibly powerful. Stress causes all sorts of health issues from migraines to digestive issues. How would your life be impacted if you were more proactive in managing your stress?

The positive impacts of mindfulness cannot be fully appreciated as they are vast. Anything and everything done mindfully will change the way you see and interact with your body, mind and the world. Living mindfully allows us to better see things as they are, in the moment, which allows us to make the best decision in that moment. We miss so much of what’s in front of us when we are caught up in our thoughts. Mindfulness is the game changer that allows us to be more available in the here and now, which is truly all we have.

One of my favorite tributes to the benefits of Yoga for better sleep came from a student who told me that after using Yogic breathwork to fall asleep, she slept the best she had in 10 years, without medication. “I felt like I had become one with the mattress,” she said. That works for me!

Distracted vs. Calm Mind
When people first come to Yoga, they become aware of how distracted their minds are. Meditation brings this realization to the forefront. Our minds are incredibly powerful and can be used for all sorts of creative and useful endeavors. However, it is the restless, ruminating, distracted mind that is terribly fatiguing. Meditation teaches us that we can change that default by bringing our awareness to the breath when we aren’t using our minds in a purposeful manner, thereby calming the mind and conserving energy. This is a practice, like all others, that is ongoing. No one ever masters meditation, which is why it is called a practice. This fact can be at first disappointing for the new student, but the good news is that we can still reap the benefits of meditation, just from practicing.

It is our nature to contract our bodies when we’re focused. You probably already know where you tend to carry tension – typical places are shoulders, neck, face, back, glutes. Let’s test that out now, since you’re likely (hopefully) focused on reading this. Scan your body and see… are you’re tensing anywhere? (Yes!) As we become more adept Yogis, we become more aware of these patterns and release them as soon as we notice our shoulders lifting, our glutes tightening, or our jaws clenching. Tension is not relegated to the awake state. If your body is tense during the day, you will likely tense it while asleep. This ongoing tension is draining and over time causes physical pain and uneven wear and tear on our joints. Thankfully, Yoga teaches us to change this default and be more relaxed while being engaged/focused.

With all this good news, you can see how Yoga, the miracle drug, will change your game.

I hope to see you on the mat soon!



excerpted from The Sun, by David Whyte

“… I look out
at everything
growing so wild
and faithfully beneath
the sky
and wonder
why we are the one
part of creation
to refuse our flowering.”

Enjoy your flight

It seems like too many people are trying to hold an overwhelming number of things together – work, family, friends, with illnesses and bills to pay – like juggling balls up in the air, afraid to let any of them fall. Maybe it’s always been like that, maybe we’ve always taken on more than we can handle well.

Supporting others without adequate self-care takes a toll. We caregivers (can’t we all be called this?) need regular nurturing, support, and retreat time to just be. We need to regularly take off our outer armor and “let the soft animal of your body love what it loves”.* Maybe through music, walks in nature, Yoga, meditation, fishing, gardening, painting, others.

We are not machines, and yet we often hold ourselves up to the same standards, thinking we have enough bandwidth to multitask, to keep all these apps running at the same time. But we don’t. And even machines don’t run forever.

For us, stress shows up as issues with sleep, digestion, illness, emotional roller coasters, etc.

I use to think illness was a welcome excuse to take a break. Perhaps I felt I shouldn’t rest otherwise. I don’t know how or why I adopted that belief system, but I now see it in others too. Those of us that think we must do everything pay the price with our own well-being.

What would happen if we let some of the balls drop?

Who knows, maybe if we let a few responsibilities go, they might resolve themselves, or give permission to let someone else step up. Reminds me of the life-saving advice offered on each flight – please place the air mask on yourself first before trying to help anyone else.

And, enjoy your flight.

* Mary Oliver,

    Wild Geese


For the first time in four years, I am no longer teaching a twice weekly early morning meditation class. It began as a request from a student who wanted to start a regular practice. She brought her husband. And then another woman joined us. And often my husband, too. Over the years others would accompany us for a month or more, but there was always the core group of five.

I taught the class because I know the power of meditation to positively affect one’s life in subtle and significant ways. Teaching it required me to stretch my knowledge and experience with meditation, and to maintain my own regular practice. Desiring to be a good teacher made me a better student and person. Like with all habits, meditation molded me in all the ways I needed. I heard from the others as well that they felt more calm, that they noticed how people around them seemed more frantic, that their pets were more relaxed, that they felt centered, took more things in stride and that they even lost their keys less often.

For inspiration, we watched videos of some of the current great meditation teachers: Jon Kabat-Zinn, Sharon Salzberg (there are so many to choose from) and some who’ve now passed on. We read excerpts of ancient texts from the East on meditation. Current best sellers from the West. Pulled in quotes from Christian theologians. Brought in research on all the physical and mental benefits for motivation. In preparation for teaching meditation, I absorbed everything I could and fervently practiced many styles. It started out as a an experiment and ended as an experience. I changed.

We know from neuroscience that the brain has neuroplasticity – it’s resilient and changes easily. Our thoughts, words, actions change how our brains are wired, changing us, moment by moment. This became clear for us over the last few years as  our meditation practice changed how we all better related to life’s stresses.

When the lives and schedules of the core group changed and the class ended, I reflected on change.

There was a time when I felt more comfortable with change, than not. A regular schedule felt restricting and stifling. Over time, the pendulum swung and I appreciated stability and it’s gift to conserve energy that constant change neglects.

The pendulum has swung again, and for now towards balance. I see that stability builds energy and depth while change creates interest and growth. Both equally important and nourishing for the full human experience.


Funny bone 1, Silence 1

I have a unique Chair Yoga class that we’ll just label ‘chatty’. It started with a few seniors and has grown to over a dozen. When I say chatty, you may not get the whole picture. I mean, within the circle that we sit, there may be 3 conversations going at the same time. Other times, all are weighing in on the latest political gaffe, winners in last night’s basketball game, or favorite restaurants for our next lunch outing. Or the self-described ‘assistant’ Yoga teacher providing occasional inspiration by calling out “Good everyone” (mimicking me), while others provide cue-ing to a student who hasn’t quite ‘gotten’ into the pose. All done in good humor.

Ok, I guess some would actually call this class loud. Either way, it’s definitely not like any Yoga class I’ve taught.

Over time I’ve accepted this, with a compromise – that they can chat the first 20 minutes if they keep the last 40 minutes silent, which they do.

There have been many times I questioned the usefulness of the chitchatting. I talked to them about the benefits of silence and mindfulness. Showed them videos of Jon Kabat-Zinn talking about mindfulness. Brought in recent research about mindfulness and meditation. And still they chatted.

Sure, I could have laid down the law as this was not normal Yoga etiquette and I am someone who loves to teach without so much as even music in the background. But the group kept growing and making each other (and myself) laugh, and there’s a lot to be said for that.

I don’t plan to make a habit of offering this type of Yoga ambiance  but it seems to fit for them. I read this week about Jesuit Priest Greg Boyle working with gang members and he said something that seemed to fit for our Chair Yoga group (not that there are any other similarities). He said that his work was not about helping others, but about “our common calling to delight in one another.” Clearly this is what is happening in the Chair Yoga group on a very verbal level.

So, should you be interested in taking my Chair Yoga classes with the City of Raleigh, you’ve been forewarned. You may not find inner peace, but your funny bone may be tickled until it slips out onto the floor.


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